Recently, whenever I would tell my W that I loved her, etc, she would sometimes respond with "your lying!" I would get soo angry because I know I do love her and she wouldn't believe me. Only recently, after the bomb, have I started to look at those situations differently. I think in a sense I was lying. After learning about the LL's I know that I never paid attention to how my W recieved love. So of course I was lying. My heart said it over her but my actions didn't back it up. After years of this she can't trust my words (understandably) and now it is near impossible to show her with my actions. I really feel like I should apologize for getting so defensive when in fact she was pretty right on.
How do I approach the apology? I know I am supposed to limit speaking and callng and not bring up R talk but I really feel this would be helpful if she heard it. I think she will say something like "I hope that hels you in the future" and that will sting alittle but I am really focusing on becoming a better man and a better man would admit he was wrong and try and change it, for him if nothing else.
Any vets have advice on how to word this and how to tell her?
