CTH: I was told by my attorney, after she spoke with our judge, that, the only way I was going to get custody of our children was "if they had bruises, broken bones and cigarette burns." Those knowing my sitch know that my XW had some pretty bizarre behavior over the past 4 years. My friend in the state of Mass. actually had grounds by Child Protective Services to get custody. His XW pushed their son down the stairs. They gave him custody FOR ONLY 3 MONTHS while they remanded her to a special course, then, returned custody back to her.
I think you have a good attitude and I hope you continue to hold firm to the rudder until the storm is over. There really are only two things here: a financial settlement and parenting time. Do the best to get as fair a deal on both.
Lastly, the finality of divorce affects us all differently. Even tho' my father was slowly dying of cancer many years ago, I wept at his bedside, having thought I had gotten closure. I still miss him. Similarly, I just signed my divorce stipulation 3 days ago and, four years post bomb and 2 1/2 years post filing, well...it's not easy. I DO look forward to the peace and the termination of walking on eggshells, but, that peace will bring a deafening quiet to my home as my children will be moving out with their mother. This....is divorce for us men.
Keep up the good attitude. Always keep to the high road and hold true to your N.U.T.S.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
