LSG - you're going through really tough stuff. I'm just asking...have you considered getting checked for depression or anxiety? The OM sitch may have affected you more than you think, as well as your natural concern for your family.
BTW - why do you think she will screw up the bills? Give her at least a chance. Maybe help her know what to pay. I'm sure this is a VERY hard situation. Be strong. Be patient.
Don't let anger destroy your opportunities as we men so often do...
