Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

GM, I like your suggestion to take this opportunity to ask her the question about how she feels about where we are with the house. I would like to know what she is thinking. I think I remember Coach saying to ask them questions like this about how they feel.

Last night I talked to someone that works at the gym about renewing my membership. I explained that my W and I are separated and we need to renew either jointly or individually. In yesterday's email my W told me that she appreciated my offer to split the costs but thought she was going to do her own membership. Well, she lied to me. The person at the gym told me that my W already renewed her membership as an individual membership a couple days ago. Unbelievable, my W can't even be honest with me about something as insignificant as teling me she already renwed on her own.

The guy at the gym told me that my W renewed under her married name (I think she has to legally until D) and listed her parent's address as her home address. At least that's something. She's still living at her parent's house. I'm not sure why she hasn't gone out and gotten her own apartment yet? She has the money. Don't know if she's waiting until the house sells or maybe were are D? I know she was gung ho on getting an apartment two months ago but she has since backed off of that. Don't know if she is waiting to see what happens with us or not?

Membership guy at the gym told me that my W is paying a lot more money to renew than I will pay because I get a discount because of where I work (she doesn't get the discount). The gym guy offered to do a pretty cool thing. I told him that I'm sure my W wants to feel independent now but it's too bad she won't let me help her save some money. He offered to give us a reduced membership (which is really the joint membership fee) and allow us to renew as individual memberships. That was pretty nice of him. Funny now because everyone I tell about my W and I gives me the same advice...be patient, give her space. He told me the same.

So I'm not sure what to do here. Should I email my W and tell her the nice offer this guy made and we can save money and still have individual memberships or should I do nothing? I will also renew no matter what she decides. Should I also tell her that the guy told me she already renewed? I feel like I need to start calling her out when she is dishonest with me. I can phrase it so as not to come across as pointing fingers...just be matter of fact about it. The guy told me that even though she renewed and paid in full a couple days ago that he would still make this deal if she wants to save some money.

Thoughts? I want to remain NC because I think that's still the best thing to do right now. I still don't see many positive signs from W at all.