Cause for alarm?

[OfficerInNeed]

OK, so OMW called me after OM left. We agreed NOT to have no call. I advised her to say to OM

"I don't want you to call. We need to trust each other. Just know that I am trying to protect our marriage. Also know that even if I did not want people watching they will anyway and they will still call me because they are looking out for my best interest, they care about me. So I am going to just let it be and allow you to prove to me I can trust you."

OMW said that OM thinks it is one of OM good friends that is reporting back to OMW. OM friend has a "thing" for OMW and sometimes jokes to OMW and OM "I'll take you out to dinner, I'll do that for you." So OM thinks it is his friend who maybe reporting things back.

I plan on telling W I got the call just to keep honesty in our sitch, I get the feeling OM will tell my W anyway so why not let it be me who tells her.