There's a start. How's living in a open marriage working?
You have to mentally and emotionally be ready to set this boundary. Until you are then you will wallow in this mess. It is no way to live. As long as you allow this behavior to go on the you don't have a chance. Women aren't attracted to someone they don't respect.
The other thing is you move back into the master bedroom. You need to lead your family right now. Currently you are letting your wife call the shots. Standing up for yourself will not drive her further away.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
