W still wants separation, need to DB more

[OfficerInNeed]

What i am curious about officer is how long the two of you have been working these crazy shifts?

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The shift I am on now worked out great for us.


A question to ask yourself, does it lead to a productive sex life?

We use to have a very productive sex life. Ever since she dropped the ILYBNILWY bomb we have not had any sexual contact (01/24/10). And since mid February she stopped almost all physical contact (hugs, kisses, ect). And since the start of Mark W tries her best to ensue I do not see her anyway other than being fully cloth. Keep in mind I made W feel insecure about herself for sometime even though I was also complimentary often as well. Also W did say before that she thinks when we had sex that was the only time I was nice to her.

It just seems to me that OIN doesn't even realize how much he hovers over his wife. He knows where she is ever second of the day. I think if someone like me can see this dynamic, then how must SHE feel having to live like that?

I admit, yes we had an unhealthy relationship at times where I had become controlling.

These text messages are something she just does. We both use to do it, to let each other we made to our destinations safely. I stopped doing it but she continues. Not like she use to but as I posted above that is the common script. "Left", "here","leaving"

Should I tell her that she does not have to text me anymore? How can I say to her that if she feels like she HAS TO text me, that she should not?

I want a healthy R between us, How do I accomplish this?

My W is going to think I have someone watching even if I did not have someone watching. Yes, I have snooped because I suspect something was up. W started to act like she did last time her and OM were involved...