Ignoring her bad behavior toward you is showing her you are passive. That is not only a turn-off to a woman, but it will actually cause her to disrespect you more.
Yes, a WAW is angry b/c her H has waited until she was "done" with the M before he woke up and started making changes. In some cases, the WAW has been unhappy for many years and would talk to her H (of course some do not discuss it)and the H would not take it seriously. Little by little over the years she begins to sink deeper. Then when she is totally shut down and feels that she has to leave the M in order to survive......THEN the H wakes up and over night starts making changes that she wanted to see years ago.
Now all of that was said about a WAW who is not involved in an A. Much of the same thing applies to one who is in an A, but the A speeds up the walk away and of course, it adds many more problems to the stitch.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
