Lost, confused and fighting for my marriage

[NNP1965]

Nothing about it is stupid... and I understand completely what you are saying... I said the EXACT same things myself.

I truly hope the workshop goes well. I really do, but unless this is something your H is pursuing he will not really hear a word that is said. Or he will twist what is said into something else totally and use it to justify what he is doing.

Every thing with him is a big question... because he has NO IDEA what he is doing. He is coming over to do those things to get a taste of "normal". He gets it and can leave and go about his merry way. If he was not getting it he may have to look at himself.

I know you have to do what you think is best... absolutely! We have all been there... We all have to make our own mistakes. If we could learn from those who have gone before us things would be so much easier, but that is just not how were are programmed.

None of what he is doing has ANYTHING to do with you... it is all about him.