Need a pick me up

[pearlharbr]

Puppy, I do agree that her attitude and her libido are two separate issues. I thought we were just discussing the lack of sex issue at the moment.

IMO, the dismissive attitude does spill over. She feels that she likes things the way they are, they don't need to change so she isn't going to do anything about it (i.e. investigate what, if anything, is contributing for her lack of desire).

Yes, if BF started suffering from ED I would be supportive and understanding and patient while we tried to figure out the cause and possible cures. But if he refused to acknowledge that it was an issue and refused to do anything about it after I had expressed serious concern then my patience would not be unlimited.

If lack of sex is a dealbreaker for someone then it's a dealbreaker. I don't see how that's any different than if infidelity is a dealbreaker. I'm not suggesting that Burt walk out right now because he's not getting any. What I am suggesting is that if sex is a fundamental part of his idea of marriage, he has discussed this with his wife and made clear his concerns (I'm assuming in the past they had an active sex life), AND she refuses to address his concerns in any way, then he needs to decide if that's something he is willing to give up for the rest of his life.