still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

Oh and BD, I have reflected on my flaws and flaws in our relationship....here were some of his complaints about me:

I worked too much (but I changed that in fall 08 when we got pregnant!!!)He wished I was a little more adventurous with activities. I have fears of getting hurt, drowning, looking dumb, scared of the dark....
but I am working on my self confidence, I use a night light, I learned how to swim, and there is this zipline adventure park nearby that I totally want to try! ME- ZIPLINE! I want to find someone to go with me! Too bad WH is missing out.

He also complained that I didn't show much interest in working on the house and yard, cleaning, taking charge of cooking(I was the "prep" cook and he was the chef!) and wanted me to maybe play some video games once in awhile! So I have improved in all of those areas and am now the perfect woman! haha. I did affirm WH quite a bit but did not bring him gifts and do small acts of service (his LLs) but I did that during his visitation at the house for the last 5-6 months.

He and I both avoid conflict. We both want to please the other...example: if he wanted to go out to eat at a particular restaurant he would ask me where I wanted to go. I would say and then he would say "ok. we could also go to ___" which is where he wanted to go all along! So I would say "that sounds good!let's go there instead!" And I would do that same sort of thing to him! ARRRRGGHHH!

We both can be passive aggressive (but he is worse than me!) We don't talk about our feelings much.You know what really bothers me though- I could completely be myself with him but I thought he was being himself with me. Guess not.