He is sorry for now...that can and most likely will change...there will not be some revelational incident that you will be able to mark as his return to sanity (if he has one)...as trapt so aptly put it, MLC'ers are all over the map...
You might even try not answering his phone calls or emails...see if you can manage a no contact day or two...and enjoy your own life and your son!
Your H dumped you, his handicapped wife of xx years. Alrighty,then-- SHOW THAT B*STARD you don't need him, that you will be just fine without him! Amaze your son! Be the heroine of your own story! Be the inspiration for a Lifetime movie!
Living well is the best revenge.
My new favorite saying...
This Princess Saves Herself!!
Last edited by shelbel; 05/13/1011:45 PM.
formerly known as "shelbel" Me 40, stbxh 40 DSs 9, 7 & 3 M9, T10 Stbxh is a diagnosed bipolar & an addict. The end.
Ok maybe 3 days, stop monitoring his behavior or reading in to it.
You have to build yourself up before anyone is going to come back to you.
It doesn't look like he cares about having to protect you right now, show him he doesn't need to.
It might relieve some anxiety, I can tell you if a woman shows a man she doesn't need him, whew drives a guy nuts.Driving me nuts and I'm the sane spouse.
He can barely take care of himself, the stress of having to take care of you isn't going to make it any easier.
I'm glad I've only caught the last couple of pages.
When you point your finger to blame someone else for your unhappiness how many fingers are pointing back at you.
Based upon what I've read, you show him you don't need him or care what he's doing, it might hit him like a Mack truck and make him all curious.
She would drive by my work to make sure I was there.
That was wrong of me to stay late after work and drink beer, it was years later before I realized how I made her feel.
At the time being 19,20 yrs old,she'd drive by, I didn't feel so bad, I was just getting out of teenage years, kind of where your husband maybe, who knows. I can also tell you this, I didn't like her checking up on me, so I would stay out later and poke fun at her for doing it.Until she hit me with a remote and an orange and showed me how bad she felt.
At the time the only one that got hurt was her, so quit driving by his place, because right now the only one that's going to get hurt is you.
Later in life, I'm being hurt by those actions, things do have a way of coming back around.
I have faith we can make it through this.I went to rejoice marriage ministries most of the day and just kept reading about the miraculous stories of marriages being restored. I noticed alot of them happened after the stander let go of the situation. I have to focus on me and my son. I was strong today. Hope you are doing okay. How is your situation going?
Im feeling sad today. It is difficult to get motivated to do things. I don't know what I will do for Memorial Day and that makes me sad. I am going to go to the park now and go running and read my text book. I was looking for jobs to but did'nt see any. My son seems very sad lately, and that makes me sad. He was very quiet yesterday and I told him I think he needs to go talk to someone. I am going to take him to my counselor again next week.
Rysmom, Don't be too hard on yourself when you do have waves of sadness. Sometimes you will be sad. You are human. As long as you don't wallow in the sadness and you find a way to snap yourself out of it you are still moving forward.
How was steak with your mom last night? I hope it was yummy. How was your run today? I used to be a runner until I effed up my knee and herniated a disc in my neck. *sigh* Your class sounds interesting. Have you decided what country you will be working on yet?
Take good care of yourself and your boy. Happy TGIF! ~ swl
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}
The steak was good, and my mother brought carrot cake for dessert. Me and my lab had a good run. me, my son, and my mother are going to go to my sisters this weekend. Her son and his fiance just had a baby girl 1 mos. ago, and we haven't seen her yet. So it should be fun.
Im feeling sad today. It is difficult to get motivated to do things. I don't know what I will do for Memorial Day and that makes me sad. I am going to go to the park now and go running and read my text book. I was looking for jobs to but did'nt see any. My son seems very sad lately, and that makes me sad. He was very quiet yesterday and I told him I think he needs to go talk to someone. I am going to take him to my counselor again next week.
Maybe your son is sad because he can't talk to you about his feelings? He doesn't want to make you feel worse then you already are and he can't talk to his dad for fear it will upset you or him... And not sure taking him to the same counelor you are seeing is a good idea for several reasons 1) he may not feel he can speak freely...even though your counselor should not share what he talks about with you he may not feel that confident in her ability to not tell you and 2) if she hasn't helped you so far what makes you think she will help him?
I do think your son needs someone to talk to...ideally it would be great if that was you but, seriously, I think you are still far too depressed to be very good for him right now...
I hope you begin to find a way to progress out of the hole you are in...for you and your son's sake...have you made an appointment with a doctor to go over meds or therapy options?...I really would encourage you to do that, and soon...
