pnb, deb, bill, and zoo - thanks for the virtual HIGH FIVES!!!! (by the way deb, i will NEVER forget the date, but the point i was making is that there are no anxious feelings about it this time, first time since the bomb dropped that this month there will be no discussion with hubby about anything cause i went bonkers)
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POSITIVES
1) hubby came home late from work last night, had a rough day in parts, and especically concerned about a letter he recieved and so was ranting about that - i just listened and validated and then he stopped in his tracks and said "i am so sorry, i am talking all about MY day, i didn't even ask you about YOUR day" - it brought a smile and i told him a bit, but then told him i was more anxious to hear how he was going to resolve the letter thing...
2) so while he was gone yesterday he received another order on his new biz, so after i felt he was done with his little rant, i said "but do you know what is really exciting?" - he said, yeah, your losing more weight! that just took me by surprise, and i went over to hug him and gave him a kiss on the neck! i said THANK YOU that was SO SWEET! then i told him about his order!
3) he didn't LOCK HIMSELF in his room last night, he wanted to watch tv with me, wow, no movie (which is usually what he will sit down to watch) - just regular old channel surfing!!!
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tomorrow is the big day, 6 months. one of my closest pals (a long time married woman about 20 years older than me) told me when all of this happened to give myself 6 months to see if anything happens positive before i made the decision if i wanted to leave him. i am so glad i listened.
i really have no idea what the future holds for me, but living one day at a time is getting easier and easier.
yup, living one day at a time has it's advantages eh? thanks for the visits people and the kudo's that i am on my way...
here is my letter to hubby for today...
hey there good lookin!
just wanted to mention how good your lamb was last night!!! you sure know how to cook!
you worked so hard yesterday, i could tell when you got home that you were a bit stressed after working until dark (not to mention the traffic, ick). i am glad you took it easy for the evening and it was fun to sit and watch tv with you.
i especially wanted to let you know how much i appreciated you noticing that i had even lost more weight. that pretty much came out from nowhere and it felt good that you noticed. it's been a long hard road (can you believe it will be a year on december 2???) and when people notice it just gives a person a boost ya know?
maybe this weekend we can go one on one with a little "need for speed/undergound"?
Hey, you know what I like, which is simple and easy - put together a picnic. I've prepared a picnic on the living room floor, in the back yard, whatever. Maybe you can find a way to slip the idea into his head.
thanks for the suggestion bill...yeah, one of the things that hubby and i used to do ALOT was go out to eat, we loved finding hole in the wall places and sampling new tastes!
got my motivational quote for the day, i thought it fit so well with dbn i thought i would share it with you
Quote: "This is unconditional love. You think good things about people instead of dwelling on their faults. You wish them well, instead of wishing them punishment or failure. You love them as opposed to judging them."
These are wise words for us all to live by.