But Sandi, I think my wife believes that she is setting me free, to eventually be with someone who will make me happier. I have not been pursuing. I actually think I am overavoiding her. I restated I did not want a D per some advice on this thread and to open the conservation about me understanding how she can feel that the M needs to end.
If I wanted to convey that I'm done with the M, the refi would have been done weeks ago. She would have her share of $$$ and we would have no reason to communicate whatsoever. IMO that would reinforce her conclusion that the M was dead to me and she was right to leave.
I appreciate everyone's input but I am getting conflicting advice. It is especially hard because of distance. Even if I turned into James Bond, she wouldn't be here to see it.
