embracing change

[flowmom]

Well I got a peek into H's intentions tonight. He wants to take out a second mortgage on our home to consolidate the debt. I found that that would make it harder for me to assume the mortgage, so I expressed that concern to H tonight. He looked kind of pained, then said that if I wanted to continue to live in this home, we would be willing to keep the mortgage "for a few years" -- I'm assuming he meant keep the title, but not pay the mortgage. That was a relief as it would be difficult for me to qualify even to assume the mortgage...that would still be based on my income. I think that he believes that I should know what his intentions are and trust him, but frankly I'm not feeling in a trusting mood post-bomb. And of course a new life with a new woman/stepchildren might change his intentions in a hurry. I guess that's an argument for starting the separation agreement soon, while he's feeling guilty and likely not yet being pressured for commitment etc. by new OW unless she is totally stupid, which I doubt.