I just wanted to say I think you are doing the right thing by coming on here to vent your frustrations. It's a good place to do that.
I don't know if the specific things your W is doing now are tests or not, but if you are tested, your W knows what buttons to push to do that.
If you do respond to her e-mail about the market conditions, you can still make it to where you can get a gauge on her. Obviously it's easier to gauge someone in person, but if you responded something like this....
"Some neighborhoods are doing OK, others not so much. How are you feeling about where we are with the house?"
Or, if you choose not to respond at all, that's fine too. My thought is if you do respond, turn it into a question.
