Yes, I do have someone in mind for both intermediary and family therapist. Ironically, it's the pastor and his wife for both jobs. The pastor's wife is a counselor and they live fairly close and can be the intermediaries too.
My wife asked me today about when I was going to get a temporary separation order and I told her that I was hoping that we could do this ourselves so I wouldn't need that, but that I HAVE spoken to a lawyer and will use the TSO if she cannot make a decision soon. So I got caught up in a bit of R talk, but at first I was merely answering her question. Then I made it clear that there were only two options for me at this point - SEPARATION or RECONCILIATION. And I explained why as we have discussed on this board.
At one point, she asked, "What if I stop talking to him (the OM)?" I said, "Well then I would feel like I could work with you, but otherwise I could not just remain friends because you are treating me like crap and you harm children and I cannot be friends with someone like that." She denied harming children, but I stuck to my guns and tried to make myself very clear.
My wife is asking for a divorce and I don't completely understand why.
