Easier said than done. This is the biggest decision I've ever had to make and I'm scared. The decision effects so many people. I know I'm co-dependent. I care about what happens to him. I want him to live a happy life. I'm working on my co-dependency issues.

Four years ago I gave up my family, my friends, my home, and my job because he put a ring on my finger and promised me forever. I leached myself to him because I was in a new place, thousands of miles away from my family, no friends, and no job. I put him on a pedestal and waited for him. I couldn't understand why he suddenly didn't want to have sex anymore. I tried everything I could think of for three and a half years. I asked for his help and instead of coming to a willing wife, he found some floozy at work because "it was easier to make her happy." How could that be? All I wanted more from our relationship was sex!
Now I'm here. again faced with the strong possibility that I'm going to give up everything we've built together in the last four years and start over, yet again.

I know... I'm complaining. I read some of these other posts and I know that my situation isn't so bad. heck, I even post some responses on other people's threads. It's so much easier to give advice than it is to take it. When he and I are together, I sometimes see the man I fell in love with. I don't understand anything anymore. it's such a blow to my already peaked insecurities that I'm apparently not worth fighting for in his mind. how was I so wrong about this man? how was my judgment so off?

I'm so confused all the time. I know what i need to do, but I haven't found the courage yet. I keep wondering if I'm giving up too soon.


When you are happy as an individual, you are in a better position to determine whether a partner enhances your happy life or weighs it down.