Cause for alarm?

[OfficerInNeed]

My W has 2 phones. One in her name, her own service. One in my name, that she has had for years now. Both phones are still active.

The phone that is in my name, service I pay for, is a black berry. So whenever she is sent an email it is also download onto her black berry.

Today I picked up the blackberry and looked at the saved messages. I seen the aforementioned messages and deleted them. I deleted them from her phone, that I paid for on a service that I pay for. I did it for the above reason. If she confronts me and I own up to doing it, it what I typed acceptable response?

Also, I just spoke with my friend a short while ago. He said that the conversations between the two have been mutual. He would at times go up to her and engage in conversation. As I have been told all along, not like it was but communication has NOT stopped between the two.

I will be calling OMW tomorrow and let her know whats going on.

I seen a FT once, on the day of my 2nd appt the FT canceled on me. I have not gone back because I don't have the funds to do so. I don't even know if the FT I was going to was "the one"

Giving this current situation, how should it be handled? Do I confront W on the talk or just tell OMW and let her confront OM ( he will B.S. his way out of it anyway)

I thought I had combated this 'thing' between them and unfortunately it is starting back up.