Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Hi Gr8, thanks for checking in. I've been following your thread. Sorry that your meeting did not go as you had hoped. I wish you luck with whatever happens in the future. You never know, maybe your W will have a change of heart.

Yes, I've been NC with my W until today when I replied to one of her emails. She emailed me twice this week. She emailed on Monday to ask if I received our electric bill. I did not reply until today. She didn't need to ask me about the bill. She could have called the electric company and gotten the current bill and paid it without contacting me. The bill wasn't due unitl the end of the month so I felt no rush to contact her about it this week.

She emailed me again today. Today she asked if our gym contacted me, as our joint membership expires next week. The gym contacted her and she wanted to make sure I knew about the membership expiring. So today I emailed her back and thanked her for letting me know. I asked her what she wanted to do and if she wanted to split the cost to renew the membership to save us both some money. I also informed her that I left the electric bill and her mail at the house for her to pick up (the house is vacant as neither one of us are living there now).

She emailed me back a few hours later and said "no problem" for informing me about the gym membership. She thanked me and said she appreciated my idea of splitting the cost but she thought she was going to do her own gym membership. No big surprise there. She said she will stop by the house to get the electric bill and pay it.

She also mentioned the house and said we had a showing the other day. I already knew about the showing because our agent emailed my W and I to inform us. Why would my W bother to mention this? My W had emailed our agent on Tuesday for a house update and didn't copy me on the email. Our agent did copy me on her reply email to my W. With the market being slow we haven't had much activity on the house. I think my W might be starting to realize that selling the house isn't going to be as fast and easy as she thought. My W emailed the agent from her new email account with her maiden name. W emails me from her email with her (my) married name. Who cares really? I haven't given my W updates with the house because, honestly, there hasn't been much to report. I also am tired of making things easy for my W and shielding her like I have for the past several years from the difficult stuff. She wants to end this M so, in my opinion, she should have to take care of this stuff on her own. I don't even do any more work on the house except for mowing the grass.

After she talked about the house update today she asked me if the slow market conditions were a trend at my real estate office? (I'm also an realtor). Why would she ask me for information about the current market?

I don't have a clue anymore. A week ago she thanks me for sending her birthday flowers but comments that the one set of flowers made her uncomfortable. Then 5 days later she eamils me about an electric bill that she could have taken care of on her own. Then today she emails about our joint gym membership expiring next week and asks me about the house. Why would she email me about the gym membership if she knew she wasn't going to split the cost? Why ask me about the real estate conditions? Again, she doesn't need me for this, she can ask our agent. Her last few emails have been one or two sentences. Her reply email tonight was longer. Maybe I spooked her from the flowers and she's slowly and cautiously communicating again? Don't understand her asking me for things? Is she testing me? I'll be honest, it did disappoint me that she doesn't want to split the cost of the gym membership but there are worse things I guess. When she emailed me to inform me about the gym, she knew I would ask her if she wanted to split the cost. I felt like she set me up so she could let me down again. I won't let it bother me though. I'm sure she will be expecting me to ask her again about the membership but I won't. Doesn't make sense to me though that we both could have paid half for the renewal. I didn't put any strings attached to it although I'm sure she would have thought I would have read something into it.

Anyway, I haven't contacted her, she has been emailing me although I don't think it's been anything of substance. Should I reply to her real estate question? I feel like if I don't she will take that as I'm upset about her getting her own gym membership. Again, I'm not sure if this is a test by her to see how I will respond...get all pouty or show that I'm strong and it doesn't bother me?

Anyone have any thoughts?