I'm a Good Guy, Not Like My Runaway Dad, I'm Just In Love with Someone Else-- that's probably exactly what he thinks!
My WH's is:
I'm a Good Guy, Not an Abandoner, I'm Just Being True to Myself!
(And maybe there's an A too, of course.)
Really, I think that's right on the nail.
Yes, they are no doubt being totally selfish, immature, and narcissistic! No doubt. The question is were they (talking about your WAH and mine here) always that way? Did we just overlook it? Did we just think it was normal? Or is a certain amount of selfishness/immaturity in most people? Or is this just something called MLC/breakdown?
Yeah, I do think both of our WAHs are very limited in what they can do for us. But why? (I know you don't have the answer, I'm just theorizing here.) Because they're mentally ill at this time, perhaps. Because they don't and have never cared about any one else, maybe. Or something in between.
And what does 'trying my best' mean? That he wants to help? That he cries about it? That he feels bad? That talking to us is taking so much energy and effort that it's the best they can do?
Phew, okay. I guess I'm still carrying over some anger from my own sitch!
Oh, I wanted to add-- your WH is stubborn. I'd say mine is too, PLUS rebellious. Especially against his parents. Not sure if your WAH has anything to rebel against, but I totally see it with mine.
I'm glad that you felt sorry for him. That's right.
And last and not least at all, I hope the baby rotates!
I should probably go do some yoga and deep breathing. . .
