I, too, have a graduation: SIL's H. Back in the day WH and I would have both gone of course, but now he's going to the Friday celebration and I'm going to the Saturday one. I was a little worried SIL would have both of us be there, so I mentioned something like "let me know if wH is going to be there on Saturday."
She wrote back something like, "Oh, are you ready to see him now? Because I can tell him. Just let me know."
And I quickly wrote back no, I didn't want to see him. I mentioned it to make sure both of us weren't there.
Then, as I was driving home, I wondered well, should I?
But then I got SO ANGRY at him! I guess anger really is my first reaction now. No, I don't want to publically exchange pleasantries and sit somewhat next to each other in a ceremony at this time!
I might be mad because it almost seemed through her message that he was ready to see me. And that would make me mad. Why? Because it's kinda like, "Okay, are you totally fine now? Can we be friends now, is that okay?" And I'm just like F-you. Still, I guess. I guess for me, this has to start with the baby now. And if he's not interested in seeing her, then he can't see me.
I'm probably reading way too much into her message. That's why it's so important to me that they DON'T even mention him to me! I guess I should have been more clear in my message that I wanted to make sure we both WEREN'T there.
I want my plan to go through: seeing him for the first time after the birth as soon as I look "normal." With the baby.
The only way I'd deviate from that plan is if he contacted me himself and wanted to get together. I'd CONSIDER that. But none of this through-the-family crap. I'm really sick of it.
