I think you can turn around a lot of what he says to know what he is really thinking.

Maybe you can do that with everyone?! I will have to see what my husband says and "turn it around".

My H's parents called me a moneygubber. I'm assuming it is like a gold digger. Hmmm.. (but, for the most part I like these people)

Wow--can't believe they wanted you to pay back for the (9 years ago) wedding because of a divorce that their SON initiated!!

Perhaps some boundary work is in your future as well--it's one thing not to react to this, but perhaps they walked over you a bit too?