No mention of OW when he came on Wed. I believe it was the right thing to do. Thanks for all your wise words.
His depression and sadness wee worse again. I also heard a bit of anger as well. One thing I did notice was that he was very tactile with our youngest S13. He kept rubbing his hair, patting him on the shoulder and hugging him. There was aslo occasional touching of my arm again.
His withdrawal back into the tunnel is ok because that is where he needs to be at the moment. He was looking for jobs to do outside on Wed. He is so desperate that we need him. If you remember he told the counsellor he didn't think there was a place for him in the family anymore. He wouldn't say that if he heard Jack say tonight I wish it was all back to normal! I think doing little jobs makes him feeel he is taking part in family life.
On Wed we went to S parents evening at schol. H went there as a boy. He spent the whole evening telling us which rooms he used to be in and what haunts they used there when they got into mischief. He also drove around the local area showing S places that were important to him as a child. Then he went to the local Chinese takeaway to buy food. We did this weekly before he left.
He remains in replay as he continues to live with OW in her house.