ok - I have just sent a few requests BUT in my maiden name - which is what you do with food...
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Choose Life Me: 45 Him: 44 S:11 D:8 Met in 1992 Married in 1995 Bomb drop September 30th 2009 Divorce final April 16th 2011 exH Marries OW June 17th 2011
HB - He may resend the email again, I can see him doing that...or he will wait to talk to me about it in person. So far no communication from WH. Quiet, no emails of any kind for couple of days now. No contact with D either. Last time he was with OW he would bombard me with cc emails to prove to me that he is working from there...not doing it now.
OW's H called to tell me that his psychologist recommended that he doesn't rush the divorce...to give it time...and said that he was speaking from many years of experience with couples in this situation. I think that talking with the psych gave OW's H new hope. He will listen to the advice and will proceed only with separation for now. His new nanny is arriving in 2 weeks and OW will be told not to come to the house anymore.
HB - Thank you, and have a safe trip
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Just received a business email from WH, very polite, with please and thank you and at the end he adds
"I still didn’t hear from you..."
I'm obviously hitting a nerve.
Other thing I've noticed is that he only sends emails to me when OW is not there. The emails seem to come at the time when she is either taking the kids to school or when she is picking them up. Interesting...
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
SA - Bigggg 180. Ever since this all started I was trying to be his friend...the door was always open and he knew it...he was cake eating...like having two wives...OW for sex and me for everything else.
And this is really hard for me right now...not talking to him goes totally against my personality. But I have to remember this is not a punishment for him...it's good for me on many levels. To help me detach (lovingly) and to stop feeling used by him. And hopefully it will have the added bonus of him missing me
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Exactly Mila! Your H needs a good dose of what it's like to miss you. He can't stand that you're not relating to him on a personal level. I know it's not a punishment for him, but you can't miss what's always there.
I think your H is starting to be afraid that he's losing you. Hopefully this makes him take a good look at ow and realize this isn't worth giving you up for.
Stay as dark as you possibly can on the personal level. Have some answers that are short and to the point in case he shows up and questions you. Make sure there is a cool and business like Mila on tap.
Obviously there are no guarantees, but it seems as though change is in the wind for you.
