actually, the limbo that i feel is the lack of affection. altho i am feeling much less anxious about the lack of "sex" then i did a short 3 weeks ago, it still is an issue. it still is a sore spot because i still feel that without that first "act" after the bomb, there can really be no healing of the r - so in essense, even tho i KNOW i am doing the right thing by staying, we really are only "roommates"
I can so relate to this. I waited with baited breath for him to be ready...and then when he was I chickened out!! Laugh.
Have you tried just touching him every now and then? Like a skittish cat, get him used to your gentle touches so that the feel of your hand on his arm doesn't send him running. That way he doesn't think you equate simple touches with all out sex? Or have you already been doing that?
