We've got to value and respect ourselves enough to let go of other people who don't value or respect us.
'Reacting' is giving the other person control of ourselves.
I'm someone whose life and family were torn apart by anger, resentment, and abuse...on my part. I thought I might be able to help you, in some small way, and I hope I have.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.