I just found out from a friend of a friend that was at school with the OW that all the OW's female members of the family are the same. Apparently her mother was the whore of their village, even after she was married. Explains where she got at least some of her behaviour from. Doesn't explain the behaviour of my STBXW though.
JacT, do not worry, I did think of suicide, and saw a psych, but that was nearer to the bomb, and weeks before I found this site. I've been in a much better place since then. Sure I get down, and feel I am bereft of hope, but I will not sink to the deep despair I had in the future. I owe it to my friends not to put them through that again.
(((JacT))) We must both just be patient with our situations. I admire you (and everyone else) for sticking at things for so long. It is tougher than I ever imagined.
I know a pharmacist who is less than impressed with the OP behaviour. The FOG is just mad. I'd actually settle for some kind of spray to dissolve that! I feel similar to you - they are the brick wall against which we bruise our foreheads
Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.