Excellent news tjack...a Happy Mother's Day intead!
My wife is torn as well, but unfortunately for me she doesn't want or have the desire to try at this time. She just started seeing a friend from high school, just friends at the present but they 'really like each other', she has introduce him to the kids already, after 2 weeks of getting re-aquainted. I told her not to bring my kids around him anymore and she said she wouldn't. I told D not to be his friend and to tell me if she does see him again. I also set another boundery about sex. Its ok to be friends but if a PA starts the Sep papers will be change to D papers and that will be that. Its just so surreal.
What else should I do...this was the first R talk in a long time...been acting as if and just talking w her about kid stuff. I did mention we should try doing thing together w the kids and she said that would be fine.
any suggestions are welcome...
WAW is tearing me apart is my sitch for any that can help me out
Well W and OM have decided to tell the boss soon and one of them will be quitting their job. I have plans with W tomorrow to see how we will be proceeding with our reconciliation. tough times ahead, but I know we are making the right choice.
I don't think we are ready to try anything anytime soon. We need some time to let this all sink in. This will be extreme baby steps... I pray to god to give me the strength to make this work.
Well I would officially say that our relationship has reached what many of us here want. We are stable. The game plan is to let everything kind of settle in for the next 2-4 weeks. We are going to hang out more with the kids, maybe do some dating and take it slow. After this I think we will look at retro or possibly marriage fitness to try and build our connection back. We are going to take it day by day, but we are both on the same page as to what we want our future looks like.
Excellent news tjack...a Happy Mother's Day intead!
My wife is torn as well, but unfortunately for me she doesn't want or have the desire to try at this time. She just started seeing a friend from high school, just friends at the present but they 'really like each other', she has introduce him to the kids already, after 2 weeks of getting re-aquainted. I told her not to bring my kids around him anymore and she said she wouldn't. I told D not to be his friend and to tell me if she does see him again. I also set another boundery about sex. Its ok to be friends but if a PA starts the Sep papers will be change to D papers and that will be that. Its just so surreal.
What else should I do...this was the first R talk in a long time...been acting as if and just talking w her about kid stuff. I did mention we should try doing thing together w the kids and she said that would be fine.
any suggestions are welcome...
WAW is tearing me apart is my sitch for any that can help me out
thanks
My first suggestion is too lose this type of thinking. I understand its tough but it just comes across so weak. The things that happen in our lives only have the power we give them. Regardless of what happens in your situation, you are going to be ok. The sun will continue to rise, birds will continue to sing. And your life will continue to move forward if you choose it. I know you're hurting but I think a change in attitude is warranted. You are not a powerless victim, you have all the freedom you need to create a better experience.
