The Court of King Caractacus

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Thanks for dropping by Allen - means a great deal to hear words of wisdom from those who've travelled the rollercoaster a lot longer than I.

The FIL is disgusted with her, her Mum died a couple of years ago. They had a lifelong and happy marriage from what I can tell, although it was her Mum's 2nd, and I'm not sure why the 1st ended. Her surrogate mother figure is also suitably disgusted with her and not hiding it. She doesn't get on well with her brother, and he is still angry with her for hurting her father and me with the divorce. They're all telling me repeatedly to move on though. I know that the sMIL was all for helping to save things for the first few months, but the STBXW wouldn't engage with her. The FIL is unlikely to have much influence as him and the STBXW have never really discussed anything other than farming, careers and Formula 1. He's a farmer of few words. So they all know of the wrongdoing, but I think have little capacity to help change it.

Her current circle of friends are pretty much all people that have been involved in adultery on one side or another, so are unlikely to be hypocrites and challenge her behaviour.

The WAW apparently "gave up" on her lifelong dream of having children when we split up. I haven't though, and my biological clock is ticking louder than Big Ben just to complicate matters of patience in saving the M.

Must keep chanting the mantra

"Patience, patience and then some more patience"

Is the bizarreness of no contact for 2 months and then turning up at my door with debt payment and texting today some kind of attempt to keep me in her life?