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Thankyou Snodderly, I always appreciate a reply from you, hope you are well my friend, x

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mmmmm something strange has just happened, and I am struck dumb. ex has never been down my garden path, on dropping son off he always sits in the car, a time or two if I have been out in the garden he as got out of the car and hung over the wall to chat, but never step one foot in the garden gate. remember when son got a new tv last birthday and I had to go out and help son in the house up the stairs and everything, ex didnt even to step over the line then. all this not contacting me and playing the a$$hole with son, then all of a sudden this evening on dropping son off home, he as given son his old computer chair, due to the fact I suppose that the wheel as dropped off sons own chair, what as gob smacked me is the fact that ex got out the car carried the chair, walked down the path and put it through my front door and into the hallway, wow maybe he thought i wasnt in, I wont mention it and I will let it ride, its just strange where he all of a sudden found the courage to come so close to my home, he normally phones me and sits 10 feet away in the car, brave he is getting or what, lol

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Mandy,
God works in mysterious ways. I sense he felt safe in coming into the garden today. Don't say anything about it, let it all play out.

I'm very pleased to see that everything went well at tea today.


Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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ML, I think what I said was true...he is finding ways to get to you....


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Forward, maybe he is, but it is all so strange, the last time ex phoned me and we chatted everything was so friendly, in fact ex seemed more at ease during this call than any of the others he as made to me, there isnt a reason for him to say to son that he doesnt want to text or phone me, it is just something he has taken upon himself yet again to do, I will I suppose converse with him when he is ready, dont know of any reason why we cannot convers as parents of the same child, ex's doing not mine, x Snodderly, yes tea seems to have gone well, although son never comments unless I ask, son just did make a comment last week how he finds it easier to just ignore the wifey being there now, x

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Perhaps the ease with which you communicated made him feel strange.

He'll be back, I sense.


M: 16 years
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Snodderly,

I've been reading the advice you have been giving to LBS that have and are suffering from depression. I'm really worried about my H. People have given me great advice, but was wondering if you could please go to my thread on MLC. I'm getting afraid that mine might do something to himself. He is getting worse instead of better.

I know the no contact thing but I'm seriously worried about him. On some of the advice you have given you told people to be a friend. Should I text him or something and let him know that if he ever needs to talk or something I will be there to listen.

Sorry for bumping!


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Goodfight, I dont mind you bumping on my thread x. I am not snodderly but I can tell you that in the past I have been advised to be a friend to my ex, my ex walked out the door and married the nearest skank for miles around, all within one year, I had to hold out the olive branch so to speak with ex because he didnt communicate with his only child for over 2 and half years. there was also times that different tales come back to me and there were obvious signs that ex was in a depressed state, and like you I didnt and still dont want ex to take the wrong route out of life so to speak, whatever these guys have or are still doing, we will always care and always have it in us to become a friend. I go through phases where I say I am done, but I know deep down if ever ex wanted to become a good friend I could and would do it. Just at this moment in time he is still busy with his new life and new wifey. so what I am saying to you is this, yes go ahead and bite the bullet, let your h know that he as a friend in you, keep it at that, dont discuss the past and what has happened, just let him know that he can come to you and that you will be there for him, xxx

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so all is quiet at this end, ex hasnt been in touch with son again for a full week, I sometimes wonder if he as gone back into withdrawal, mmm,, we will see, upwards and onwards we go x

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Thanks Mandyloo for the advice and letting me know about your sitch.


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