Think my wife is having an MLC, looking for help

[TrentC]

It's been a while since my last update, but I have decided to talk to my wife this weekend and inform her that I will be moving out.

I found evidence last night that she is still carrying on the EA with the OM.

All this did was crystallize a decision that I have been agonizing over for a couple of weeks -- we have been at a standstill for several weeks, and even though she has been more open and friendly around me, there has been little to no movement towards actually working on the relationship or herself as she promised to do.

At this point I'm not sure if this is an MLC, depression or just plain WAS behavior. Either way, it hurts too much to be around a woman that I love but cannot be in love with, and who I now know is still investing all of her emotional energy into another relationship.

I'm sure there will be people who will encourage me to kick her out instead and that I should be able to stay in our marital home, but it's really better for me to be the one to leave; I don't know what her plans are, but I need to find a place to live because I have a life and a career here.

And maybe her being in the house all by herself for a few weeks will spur her to action, one way or the other.

We all know that relationships borne of infidelity are rarely successful, and maybe if I leave before things get too ugly then there may be a chance for us down the road. But that is not in my hands, it's in hers and in God's.