Actually my sitch is not as it seems. I have no idea how many people on here this will alienate, but I hope it is few. I figured it's time if I'm going to be on FB groups with it all, I don't like hiding behind a facade, and for people to be able to see my face! I'm starting to feel like I'm amongst friends here, and safe enough to do this.
All the people involved in my sitch are women. We're civilly partnered, I consider this to have the same importance as marriage, and here in the UK it is subject to the same laws in all except the exact terminology used. We took vows with the same sentiments as those in conventional marriage. So read OW where it says OM in my previous posts.
There. Outed. Again.
Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.