Not to sound old or anything, but in the past the COMMITMENT was what you held on to during the dry times and the rough patches. We didn't always have a 50% divorce rate in this country at least.
That has been my stance all this time. Stick to the commitment. And yes I still believe that. I'm with what you have said 100%.
But in any relationship - that's me. I may think that's her, but obviously I don't know for sure. And I'm not saying here that "I'm not happy" and all the other rhetoric justifies leaving. Nope.
But why are so many people not happy? Isn’t that an important question?
And you make a good point about, how you pick future relationships. I’m pretty sure that XW could NEVER have been happy, may be never will be.
I don’t want to be so jaded to say “some people are broken, stay away.” I guess though, now, being older and wiser, I do know better what I want, I do know better what a healthier relationship and a healthier person looks like.
Maybe it does come down to the end, be with someone that shares your values. You know the struggle in my head right now – I think now out the other side I have a need to re-discover who I am and what I want in this context. Because my marriage failed does not mean that I should give up on the concept. I’m trying to make sense of it. There are a lot of things rattling around right now.
