Thank you all. She just called me and talked for a long time till the funeral home called. His family wants the burial of the ashes now. She's decided to get the double plot so she doesn't upset her daughters. They're currently beside themselves with grief. Unfortunately, daddy is on a pedestal and can do no wrong in their eyes. She told me she does want to flush his ashes down the toilet or throw them off the Skyway bridge where he jumped - and I SO get this.
I told her I'm coming after she goes to the cemetary today and will take her out for dinner. She needs to get out of the house and just do something "normal". Then we're going to bring all those cards and letters here where I have a campfire pit and do some burning. I still have a couple of things to add to that fire too.
Her oldest daughter is driving her nuts. Demanding and self centered. She shows no care for anyone else's feelings (my friend or the younger daughter). Can't sleep alone. Wants her boyfriend (20 years her senior) to stay with them. He is eating them out of house and home and contributes NOTHING. ON the day of the suicide he just showed up, did not hug her daughter or even say a word. When the house was full and they needed food she asked him to get pizza. He ordered $90 worth then asked her for her purse (she had to pay for it).
If something doesn't change quick - someone else might die at this rate.
