I think this is my home for the next 6 months...

[ericmsant2]

Shelbel

I knit. And crochet. And read. Other than that, I don't remember.

Time to start remembering...dear...GAL'ing is going to be key for you.

It's been so long since I've done anything for myself.

It is a good time to start. In this processing you really need to take care of yourself. Your mental well being is the most important thing right now.

So...being strong without being a b!tch. That's a goal.

Interesting goal.

I need to let go & just roll with the punches.

If you are control freak like I was, this is going to take some serious work but can be done. At some point just know that you will get to a point where you accept that the feeling of control you have is really not control at all.

So my work order for me is

~Be strong without be abrasive.
~Not try to control things I have no control over, and have no business trying to control
~Not just not say mean things, but don't think them either. Give people the benefit of the doubt more.
~Stop becoming overly involved in someone else's problem.

Sorry if this is a stupid question....but why do you want to work on the above? Really why?

[quote]Speaking of emotions... [quote]
Oh yes…those damn emotions….they always get in the way don’t they. Just remember that emotions and feelings are temporary and can TEACH YOU a lot about yourself. For me, I’ve learned to keep my mouth shut (or as Mach would say..pour myself a large glass of STFU) and really examine WHY I feel a certain way. What thing “triggered” this feeling? Why did it “trigger” it? As Mach said in an earlier post…the answers and the solution to ALL of your questions is in YOU.

Shelbel – you sound a lot better today. Keep posting and keep reading. Keep your head up. On small piece of advice that I have would be to…be gentle on yourself. We often make mistakes in this process and then beat ourselves up for sometime days (in my case it felt like weeks) – you will make some mistakes…learn from them. As Mach posted, take time to absorb that advice that you are receiving. Remember…every case is different..every case.

Finally, regarding the kids...just be there for them. Try and keep them out of this as best you can. Be the best parent you can be and leave the rest to God.

God Bless,
Eric