embracing change

[Freckle6]

No, I wouldn't sent that unless you want to get him riled up. It's bound to get him defensive (because he knows he did act like an @ss) and make things worse. And if things get nasty legally ever, he could try to pull the "she's trying to keep me from my kids" card with that.

I went through several years of birthday parties with H attending where I don't think I uttered anything more than a "thank you" to him the entire time. And these were cookout meal birthday parties with our families. If you have people coming, it'll be easy to just steer clear of each other.