Well put, Flowmom. I've been on the BB for a few years and many times have heard males (and it's almost always males) who say they are over their spouse, they've wasted time, they want a new life etc shortly after the split and are READY to date. It's rarely a good strategy and when the report back months later, it was often a set back. I know how hard it is to be rejected by someone who you feel probably knows you better than anyone else in this world, it's devestating. You wonder if anyone else could ever love you after your life partner has said "you're not good enough" or that's how it feels. Often jumping ahead feels good for the ego and covers up the pain (and I know how tiring pain gets!). But again, it's better to take your time, take care of you and learn to love YOU without someone else for awhile. The hard route is often the best route in the long run. I firmly believe that. Getting over a long term marriage is not a short term assignment. You gotta feel to heal!
