So, I have gone pretty dark since the S. When and how do you start talking about the R again?
You wait for her to break her neck trying to pursue YOU! You wait for HER to talk. You're still in the wrong mind set. You want to fix this by "talking".
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I talked a little about it last time on the phone with W to remind her I do not want a D, but with no pressure on her to commit or reassure me. I feel like if too much time passes, she will get used to me not being around and also assume that I am ready to move on.
And why did you think you had to "remind her"? Did you think she'd forget? You are letting fear guide your decisions. She "needs" to wonder if you are ready to move on. That's the whole point.
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Do they miss the LBS or does the WAS just get used to the LBS not being around and go ahead with the D?
That kind of thinking is not DBing. It is not what works with a WAW. She needs to be alone. She needs to suffer the loss of you being around.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
