Confused and looking for advice

[hockeymom12]

There is no ow, this has been confirmed over and over. He is not a good liar and a very good friend of ours who is a marriage counsellor has asked him and he would not lie to him for sure, even to save face. He is not like that and I have to believe him when he says this is not what it is about. I agree that arguments are good and I should probably clarify something I would argue but he would never argue back, he would just walk away and let me think everything was fine, when it wasn't. I always communicated with him and truly believed that we were on the same page. He has admitted that if he had been able to open up sooner we would not be where we are now and is taking the full blame for that. I know that actions speak volumes and that words mean nothing as words have not gotten through to him, but my actions have not either. I am going to counselling to work on my issues as he requested, I have worked very hard on my faults and while it will take longer than 12 weeks to totally change my bad habits, he does not even see the small changes I have done. It is like he does not want to see them for fear that he will have to take the full blame for the breakup of our marriage instead of blaming it on me.