Confused and looking for advice

[fudwoman]

Hi Hockeymom,
I can relate to some of your story as well. It's a very difficult thing to be put in limbo situation and feel in the dark about what's going on with the other person. I will reiterate what gr8 has said - the reality is that you can't crawl inside someone's head. The only thing you can do is become intimately familiar with your own process and try to figure out how you can find peace within yourself and create a better life regardless of what your spouse does. I think this is one of the most difficult challenges (aside from serious illness) that a person can tackle but I also believe it is likely the most rewarding. Try to hang in there and find all of the places where you can get support and reminders to keep doing what is in your (and your children's) best interest.

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