[quote=Coach]It wasn't until he realized what truly motivated his wife -- their children -- that he found a more effective way to get through to her. [quote]
Another very timely post for me, Coach - thank you very much. And you know what? I don't think I have a clue about what motivates my H. That sounds stupid to say I know. And I'm embarrassed about it. It makes me feel bad because then I think how selfish I must be, to not have figured it out. I'd like to figure it out though. And not just because it might help me to change some things. I'd also like to figure it out because he deserves a wife who 'gets' him. How on earth do I figure this out though? I'm so verbal the natural thing I'd do would be to ask him! But I know where that's gotten me in the past! I know there's lots of folks here whose situations are so urgent that they need your insight a lot more than I do right now... so I'll understand if you can't reply. But if you have the time, I'd sure appreciate it. Thank you again, PG.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
I'd like to figure it out though. 
I know there's lots of folks here whose situations are so urgent that they need your insight a lot more than I do right now... so I'll understand if you can't reply. But if you have the time, I'd sure appreciate it. Thank you again, PG.