Dazed and Confused...Need Advice!!!!

[fudwoman]

Hi SMM,
Unfortunately, I am not sure any advice I offer will be helpful as I'm in a somewhat similar position to you. (not sure how to incorporate a link but I just posted my story yesterday). My H and I still sleep in the same bed and we are still wearing wedding rings but no physical touch at all. In the meantime, I'm still in limbo-land with no discussion of the R. What everyone has told me is that it's going to take as long as it's going to take and that the focus needs to be on doing what you need for yourself and not on what's going to happen with the R. I know - easier said that done. Perhaps you can check in with yourself and decide a deadline by which you will want to circle back with her and discuss the R. You can set the deadline for a given time and then change it if once you get to that point you feel it needs to be moved back. I'm suggesting this because perhaps once you have that deadline in mind you can just let it go and continue with the process of reconnecting. What are your thoughts on that strategy?

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