I need some advice. I need to know what to say to my friend. On top of all the horrible stuff she is dealing with, something else just happened. While she tried to do the right thing, portray her ex as wonderful guy - she was going through papers from his work today and found stacks and stacks of love letters from another girlfriend. From 2004. Before the recent OW he was living with. She even found lists of him trying to decide whether to stay with her (then - 6 years ago) or stay. Or to wait till the girls were grown and leave then.
So she now knows that her whole marriage was a sham. And she is sick. And as she is off to buy a plot right now she wants to go for a single, not a double. She wants to flush his ashes down the toilet.
I think I'm going to phone her and ask her to postpone her decision on the plot. To wait. To give it more time.
I need some help. I offered to take her for dinner tonight or to just go be with her. But some help here would be great. This is just So hard.
