Confused and looking for advice

[gr8 day 2B alive]

HMom,

sorry your here, but the folks here ae helpful. Although everyones sitch is different the basics behind them are similiar.

Now he is not the best communicator and apparently this is the problem, he has kept stuff bottled up for a long time and he is now so angry he cannot even see us working on this

We were best friends, rarely argued and just generally were happy, apparently though we put our kids first to many times and he feels like he does not love me anymore.

I can relate to these staements. I was not a very good communicator but thought I was a good listener, my W thought she was a good communicator however she wasn't.

We rarely argued, she would tell me this and that and I said I'll change those things. I did for a little while but reverted back.
I never complained about her faults, I accepted them. I should have been more vocal with my feelings.

So what I'm saying is that not arguing is not a sign of happiness. Arguements are good if they are approach the right way.

Now he is not the best communicator and apparently this is the problem

Remember it take two to communicate, so think about how you communicated to him. Was your thoughts and feelings really registering? Just giving you a different perspective.

Are there any other outside influences here?
Other Woman(OW)?
Joblessness?
Depression?
MLC?


PLease tell us more about it.

It is very hard for you now, I have been there. I understand you want the family to remain intacted. As did I.
Right now, try to find a sitch that relates to you and follow it. Get the the book DR if you don't have it and start reading.
Don't let H know about the book either.

Words means NOTHING right now. It's all about your actions.

Focus on yourself. You are going to need all the strength you have to get through this.
TTYS Gr8