"Sorry, I'm not comfortable being intimate with someone committed to ending our marriage. It seems inappropriate."
That will lead to nothing good if you say that. It sounds so.......well, a lot of things, but it will not be near as affective as just giving her that "I know what you are doing, and I am not the least bit interested" look.
The LBH does not need to find every little opportunity to throw "words" around. It comes across as being "Mr. Goody-Two-Shoes", preachy, and at best....self pity. Remember that the non-words work better. "Show" her....don't talk her to death.
I will agree to disagree. I agree that anything you say needs to be supported by action. And I also agree that guys that are LB do say more than they should and act less than they should.
