Visited with MC. Told him as honestly as I could what was going on. After the hour, he said that sometimes spouce has mad up their mind and that is that. If she does not want to truely work on the M, then there is nothnig he or I can do.
I just do not not know what to do with that. Anybody out there with suggestions? What should my game plan be with W now? Should I just keep acting like nothing is wrong, except for the fact that she does not wear her ring and does not sleep in the same room, and let her have space to heal? Or should I be taking another approach. My difficultly is this, I feel totally alone. I try not to show it and am happy and confident around her and S. These are my thoughts: 1. she is at home and we are communicating better than we ever have. So that is going good. 2. I am at home with my S every night and we all three play together like everything is fine. So S is happy and I am happy. 3. W and I are at least hugging and kissing and I have given her massages and other things as suggested earlier by some of you. So it feels like there is progress, but I just do not know how much or if there is really. The major problem in our marriage is that she does not talk about her feelings. It always has been. If I was doing something she did not like and never told me then it is obvious that I did not stop. So now she resents me for doing things I did not even know bothered her that I would have gladly stopped even then. So what if she is not telling me things then. I have stopped all R talk as suggested. But when does it become appropriate? Please help me out, I really am in limbo and do not know what to do.
Any expert DB'ers out there? What is my status in the process in your opinion? I feel we are at least getting to be best friends again, but I am not sure.
