I forget how it started but I had a little conversation via text with my stbxw 2 nights ago. It went something like this...


Me: I am starting a new business soon and I have some investors already.

W: That is awesome news! Will you be renting violins or working with schools?

Me: I will be a manufacturer and I will be selling violins that I varnish to shops for a wholesale price.

W: That is really awesome! WOW! I am so glad that you have found other avenues for your business.

Me: You gave me the kick in the pants that I needed to change.

W: I am so sorry... I may never be guilt free but I hope someday that everyone will be happy.

Me: I am sorry too. I was wasting my talent, my family, and my life. I will keep that with me always...

W: It is like you are alive again.


There were a couple other small things said before we said goodbye but I cant remember what they were. I have erased the texts so I cant go back and read them. She seems to notice my new self but does not initiate contact of any kind. She is just done, done, done.


Now, I have something else to share here. I slept with another woman a couple weeks ago and I am starting to have some guilt about it. Is this normal after all my Wife has done? Shouldn't I be allowed to sleep with someone else after all this?


Me 35
Wife 34
Two daughters 8 years and 3 years
Bomb 3/30/09
W filed 4/16/09
We met in'92 married in 2000
Divorce final