You need to take back control of this situation swimming!

God bless you for having the strength to work with this person without wanting to spit on them!

You need to call the shots and not back down. No more giving into his little games... It's like he butters you up and gets what he wants and then goes back to double dipping. You do not deserve that!

Tell him that you will not be in an open marriage and that unless he ends all contact with the OW, he needs to leave and that it's over!

GL, I know it's easier said and done and I haven't read your complete sitch, but reading this one ticked me off.

HUGS!

M: 32
H: 34
S:5
D: 3
D: 1
Together 11 years
Married 7
Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off)
ILYBINILWY: 08/09

"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting."
-Laura Munson