And one of them will end it when the threat of what they stand to lose weighs heavier, in their mind, than what they have with each other.
You can't control either one of them, but you CAN let your husband know -- once and for all -- what he stands to lose with you. He may or may not care about that, but I see glimpses that he WOULD (care, that is -- look at the way he responded to the parts in bold), but he doesn't take you seriously. You've taken him back so many times, he just doesn't think you're serious, and so he's playing you.
She's not..she is anorexic and most likely could not have a baby. He keeps coming back to me. I kicked him out 3 weeks ago and he kept breaking into our house. He kept coming back and lived in his car
You need to take back control of this situation swimming!
God bless you for having the strength to work with this person without wanting to spit on them!
You need to call the shots and not back down. No more giving into his little games... It's like he butters you up and gets what he wants and then goes back to double dipping. You do not deserve that!
Tell him that you will not be in an open marriage and that unless he ends all contact with the OW, he needs to leave and that it's over!
GL, I know it's easier said and done and I haven't read your complete sitch, but reading this one ticked me off.
HUGS!
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
She's not..she is anorexic and most likely could not have a baby. He keeps coming back to me. I kicked him out 3 weeks ago and he kept breaking into our house.
eh- I am too nice for that. Seriously...I did pack all of his stuff and he drove around with it in his car. He was over at her apartment on our anniversary. I left him a note that said what a nice way to spend our anniversary, please dont come home. The next day was my birthday, he came home and told me about the affair, said I love you and I want to be with you and only you...we are a family and I want to start a new marriage with you but you have to trust me. SHE must have got to him because I told him to break it off, I got 2 texts and a email from her...From that point he went right back to the basement..then I hear how he is just there for the kids..bs! PURE BS! BS she is feeding him. At this point I cant kick him out...Did I happen to mention she is single white female..read my stich..she copies everything that I do..seriously.
Let me ask you..if they were SOOOO in love and soul mates..why in the hell is he still living with me? Why when she went out of town and he was homeless did she not know and offer him a place to stay? Why did he drink(alcohol) and eat at our house and then went over there?
Let me ask you..if they were SOOOO in love and soul mates..why in the hell is he still living with me? Why when she went out of town and he was homeless did she not know and offer him a place to stay? Why did he drink(alcohol) and eat at our house and then went over there?
For the same reason that dogs lick themselves, Swimming.
